This seeks to help people towards achieving their goals - whatever those goals may be. It raises 10 crucial questions which one should endeavour to examine and answer.
Everyday, you, and about everyone else on the planet are working towards achieving a goal to improve on your present situation. Our goals are as various as our differing needs and aspirations. Your goal may be to acquire expertise in a certain endeavour; it may be to lose weight or it may be to be the next odd guy in the Guiness Book of Records.
Whatever goal it is you have, you are not achieving it and that is the reason why you sought out this article out of the million web pages on the internet. Worried by your obesity, you had a state-of-the-art "gymnasium" installed in your house. In a desperate attempt to achieve better grades you embarked on a strenuous regime of cramming and coffee. But yet it is all not working. You either seem to lack that will power to do what is necessary or you seem to be working so hard at it, yet miraculously are not achieving any meaningful result.
This article would attempt to proffer solution for your problem and would raise crucial questions which you should endeavour to examine and answer. I have painted ten different reasons of why you are not achieving your goals. We are not going treat any problem in particular like: Why you are still overweight after ten years of fasting; Why you are still unable to make your O'levels after five resits or Why you are still unable to volunteer a 5-minute speech before a very small informal audience of five people. Maybe someday I would pick up an individual problem, but presently we would be exploring why people are not achieving their goals, whatever the goals may be. Alright then, let's get started…
You Are in Love With Your Present Situation
Come to think of it! You do not actually want to change! You may make several solemn proclamations but deep within you, you are enjoying the convenience of your present situation! You've only made this goal because it is noble and it is the ideal but truth be told you are not ready for the disciplined lifestyle, the rigid routine and the sacrifices and abstentions that it all entails?
Many of our predicaments seem to have been born and are thriving on a pleasurable indulgence. If you are planning on losing weight (a very common worry nowadays), then your plight is probably being promoted by an indulgent and easy-going sedentary lifestyle that you can't rid yourself off. Likewise if you wish to make better grades and are not achieving them then you probably still have a deep attachment to the carefree lifestyle and the "focus-less" drifting that so much characterises your present routine!
Change is very difficult to achieve. It is not easy to adopt a new lifestyle overnight. People seem to always prefer the easier, more pleasurable and less-tasking path. It is difficult to find that energy to do what is necessary and so you are pulled in two different directions by two different forces that just can not live together. One - a desire to improve your present situation and the other a desire to lie back till someone pulls you up or till the medical examination report throws you into panic and alarm. And so as always the stronger force prevails. You are not achieving your goal not because you do not think it is worthwhile but because there is another equally strong or stronger force pulling you from behind. If you can stamp a firm foot down and answer the question of which of the two forces is more important you would be greatly helping your cause.
You Want To Start Tomorrow
Sometimes you hardly realise that you are procrastinating! You want to start work at your goal but work wouldn't start now but tomorrow, where tomorrow could extend into eternity. You keep postponing the D-day finding one alibi or the other to spend one more thrilling day in your present situation. And you never get started. Most people actually conceived of their present goal 10 years ago, but one way or the other they are still on the same stair 10 years hence. Somedays they actually start and somedays they abandon or forget the goal altogether. And sadly, the goal that could have taken 5 years to achieve is taking 10 years of preparation! If you have a goal, but want to start tomorrow, then you have to start asking yourself some serious questions. Start Now! Ten years from now you may still be in the same position.
You Do Not Have an Action Plan
A question: If you were driving your car heading to some place but have no idea where "some place" is on the map would you ever get there? Perhaps you would, by accident that is or by some rare stroke of good luck!
本文旨在帮助人们实现他们的目标---不管什么目标。我们这里提出10个关键问题,需要你去认真思考这些问题的答案。
我们每个人天天都在朝一个目标努力,这个目标都是改善现状。因为我们有不同的期望和抱负,所以我们的目标也不尽相同。你的目标可能是在努力取得一技之长,或者是减肥成功,或者是成为进入吉尼斯世界纪录的一员。
不管你有什么目标,你现在还没有达到,所以你会从众多网页中选中了这篇文章。你可能一直为肥胖困扰,在家里安装了最新的健身器材。你梦想能够取得好成绩,所以严格要求自己,书本加咖啡来挑灯夜战。但是这样也不是特别见效。你可能缺少意志力没有尽全力;或者你已经很努力了,但还是没有成功。
这篇文章会尽力解决你的问题,我们会提一些关键性的问题,你要认真思考这些问题的答案。我发现了十个人们实现不了目标的原因。我们并不是专门针对以下这些问题:为什么十年后仍然超重,为什么五次重修后还是不能通过O级考试,为什么依然无法在五个听众面前自如地作五分钟的讲话。可能以后我会针对某个比较个人化的问题,但是现在我们讨论为什么人们达不到目标,不管这个目标是什么。好吧,现在就开始。
·你很喜欢现在的状况。
想想吧。其实你并不是真的想改变现状。你可能嘴上说你一些崇高的理想,但是从心底来讲,你认为现在的状况比较好。你制定目标只是因为它很崇高,它是一个理想,但是说实话,你并不打算为这个目标过度约束自己,遵循严格的计划,作一些必要的牺牲和节制。
我们所处的许多困境好象已经存在,而且在我们快乐的纵容中日渐巩固。如果你在计划减肥(超重是现在一种很普遍的担忧),那么你的麻烦可能就是由于你不能摆脱久坐的习惯,这处习惯很容易形成。同样,如果你希望取得好成绩但是没有如愿,可能是由于你仍然很依恋现在无忧无虑的,没有明确目标的生活方式。
改变是很难的。一夜之间调整到另一种新的生活方式不是那么容易的。人们似乎总想找到一个更容易,更愉快,不用太费力的捷径。很难动力去做那些必须做的事情,所以你被两种相反的力量拉向两个相反的方向,这两种力量是截然对立的。一种力量是渴望改善现状,另一种力量是渴望回到原来的位置,除非有人将你从目前状态中拉出来或者医院检查的结果让你给你敲响警钟。哪一种力量更强些,哪一种力量就会占上风。你没有达到目标不是因为你认为这个目标不值得你去努力,而是因为有另一种同样强甚至更强的力量将你拉回来。如果你坚决反对并答出这两个力量中哪一个更重要,这会给你很大帮助。
·总想从明天开始
有时你没有意识到你在拖延时间。总想开始为目标努力但不是从现在,而是从明天开始,这个明天会延续到永远。你不停地为拖延找借口,让每一个有希望改变你生活的日子都停滞不前。你从不开始。实际上多数人十年前就在想他们现在的目标,但是这样或那样的原因他们仍然在十年前的相同的位置。今天开始了,明天又放弃或者忘记了目标。十分可惜,花五年就可以达到的目标得花十年去准备。如果你有一个目标,但是想要从明天开始的话,你就得开始严肃地问一下你自己。现在就开始!否则十年后你可能仍然还在今天的位置原地踏步。
·没有具体的行动计划
问题:如果你要开车去一个地方,可是你对于这个地方在地图上什么位置丝毫没有概念,你怎么可能到达那儿呢?可能你会到达,但纯属偶然或者你极度幸运。