A teacher can be very good to your child and also mistreat your child. They are the person who is really in control when you are not present, so you want to speak to them tactfully and with respect. Remember if you alienate them, they might alienate your child. Here are a few helpful tips:

10. The teacher is not in charge of your home. If your child is not behaving themselves at home, thats your responsibility. Telling the teacher that Tommy does not behave at the mall really does not matter to her if his classroom behavior is fine. Stick to classroom issues.

9. Never ask a teacher to feed your child. Sure you can mention to them that Tommy has poor eating habits, but remember, Tommy is one of many children. If the teacher stops to hand feed Tommy so does the rest of the class. Give Tommy lots of food options and remember Tommy will eat when he is hungry.

8. Never interrupt a lesson to talk to the teacher. Unless it’s an emergency, call or leave a note for her to call. You may even speak to one of the assistants. When you interrupt the lesson you are teaching your child that the lesson is unimportant, and if you think its unimportant, so will they.

7. Never expect a teacher to be your child’s babysitter. In school environments teachers are not responsible for lost items such as sweaters, lunch boxes, or show-and-tell toys. While they may help you look for it, it is not their responsibility. Remember they are paid to teach your child, not pick up after them.

6. Never ask the teacher to separate your child from another. Part of being a child is learning how to socially interact with other people. If your child is having a problem make the teacher aware of it and don’t cross the line of saying that you demand your child not play with Tommy anymore. Teacher’s cannot keep children separated nor is it fair to ask.

5. Never ask a teacher about another child. It is none of your business to know what the deal is with any child but your own. If you observe that Tommy has some issues, as long as Tommy is not your child, it’s not your business.

4. Never pass a teacher without saying hello. Teachers are with your children all day. It can make someone feel special to just take a moment to say, "hello, how are you?" This is one small thing that can make a teacher feel appreciated.

3. Never Accuse, Always Ask First. If Tommy comes home and tells you that the teacher put him in time out for no reason, ask her the next day in front of Tommy. You don’t want to barge in there and demand information about your Tommy. By listening rationally, you will get the answers you want and everyone will be happy.

2. Similarly, Never go over the teacher’s head before discussing the situation with her first. If Tommy came home with a bruise nobody told you about, discuss it with the teachers before you speak to the Director. The Directors are not in the room with Tommy all day. If the teacher has no explanation or is defensive then you take it to the next level.

1. Talk your kids teachers with like they are your friends! If they love you, your kids will almost definately get better attention. Also, they deserve it because they are caring for our precious children. Even if you are upset with them, speaking with courtesy and respect can often solve problems easily.

Above all else, remember that teacher’s are not God’s. They do not see all, hear all, or know all. Sometimes they make mistakes, and sometimes they forget things. Remembering they are human and treating them with continued respect is the key to a successful relationship with any classroom teacher.

一位老师可能对你的孩子很好，也可能对孩子很过分。他们是你不在孩子身边时，真正负责你孩子的人，所以和他们说话时需要随机应变，又满怀敬意。记住，如果你有意疏远老师，老师就可能会疏远你的孩子。这里有几点有帮助的建议：

10. 老师不对你的家庭负责。

如果你的孩子在家不怎么活动，那是你自己的责任。如果他的同学都表现很好的话，告诉老师汤米不会在林荫道玩对她来说真的无所谓。要顺应班级的情况。

9. 永远不要让老师给孩子喂饭。

的确你可以和老师提，汤米吃饭的习惯很不好，但是要记住，汤米只是多数孩子当中的一个。如果老师停下来给汤米喂饭，那就必须对班里其它的孩子做同样的事情。给汤米提供多一些的食物选择，他饿了时候总会吃的。

8. 永远不要打断课堂和老师谈话。

除非是紧急事件，不然就给她打电话，或是留言要求其回电话。你甚至可以和她的一位助手谈。当你打断课堂时，你就是在教孩子，课堂是不重要的，如果你都这样认为，孩子们也会理所当然地这样想。

7. 永远别期望老师成为孩子的保姆。

在学校，老师是不负责诸如毛衣，午餐盒或是玩具一类的失物找寻工作。但是他们可能会帮你找，但是这却不是他们应尽的责任。记住，老师领薪水，是为了教孩子，而不是给他们料理杂事。

6. 永远别要求老师把你的孩子与其它人分开。

学习如何与他人相处是做孩子的功课之一。如果你的孩子有问题，老师也意识到这一点，她也不会越权和你说你得让你的孩子不要再和别人玩。老师不能将孩子隔离，这样要求也是不公平的。

5. 永远别问老师其它孩子的情况。

别的孩子怎么样了，跟你毫无关系，除非是你自己的孩子。如果你发现汤米出了什么问题，只要汤米不是你的孩子，就跟你无关。

4. 永远不要不和老师打招呼就匆匆而过。

老师和你的孩子会待上一整天的时间。这足以让人特意花一分钟的时间说一句，“你好，身体无恙吧！” 这是一件小事，却会让老师觉得他受人欣赏。

3. 永远不要指责，先问清楚情况。

如果汤米回到家，告诉你老师毫无理由地把他留在后面了，你就要在第二天当着汤米的面询问老师这件事。你不要插嘴，询问有关汤米的事情就行了。理智地倾听，你会得到你想要的答案，而且大家都满意而归。

2. 同样，永远别在和老师谈论事情前，向她的上司告状。

假如汤米回家时，身上带有淤青，没人告诉你到底发生了什么，在和主任谈论之前，务必先和汤米的老师谈。主任并不是一整天都和汤米在一间教室内的人。如果老师对此事无法解释或是大发雷霆，到时你就可以向上反映了。

1. 和孩子的老师谈话要如同和朋友谈话。

如果他们爱你，你的孩子肯定会备受关心。而且，也应该这样对他们，毕竟他们一直照顾我们的宝贝孩子。尽管你对他们感觉不放心，与他们礼貌，恭敬地谈话总是会让事情很好解决。

除了以上几点，记住老师不是神。他们无法什么都看得见，什么都听得到，什么都了解。有时他们会出错，有时他们会丢三落四。记住他们也是人，一直都尊重老师是和任何老师打好关系的关键所在。