Luck doesn't necessarily have much to do with making a great relationship when you are dating online.
There are lots of things that you can do right and even more that you can do wrong. If you really want your online friendship to turn into a real and romantic relationship, you need to follow some guidelines.
Online Dating Mistake #1:
Profile Discrepancy?
The first one is that if you are going to post a picture of yourself or send a picture to an online friend, make it a picture of you and not some really beautiful/handsome friend. Sooner or later you might meet this person and the truth will come out anyway. So be honest. Don't describe yourself as thin and 5'3” or really "buff” and 6"1” unless that is true.
Online Dating Mistake #2:
Not Being Punctual!
When you make a date to chat online or talk on the phone, be there and be there on time. You need to put forth the effort to keep the relationship going, too. If you don't, the other person will soon lose interest and move on.
Online Dating Mistake #3:
Detouring the Conversation into Timbaktu!
Make your conversations interesting and realistic. Don't just joke around and make “cute” remarks. Find interests you have in common like music or movies. You'll need to get around to talking about goals and values. Pay attention. You can learn a lot about a person's views on love, respect and commitment.
Online Dating Mistake #4:
Expecting Perfection from Your Partner
Don't expect to find Mr. or Miss PERFECT. They do not exist. All humans are flawed. The point is to find ones with flaws you can accept. It's the little quirks and idiosyncrasies that make each of us different and interesting.
Online Dating Mistake #5:
Rushing Your Relationship on a Freight Train
Rushing into any relationship is always a mistake. Take your time.
Get to know the person well enough that you feel comfortable and at ease when talking to them and really hate to see a conversation end.
Then, and only then, will you be ready to meet them in person and take your relationship to another level. You need to be the best of friends before you can be in love.
你在网上约会时,运气和成功未必成正比。
你能正确处理很多事,但也能犯更多错。如果你真心希望网上的友情升级为爱情,那么你得遵守几条守则。
网络约会禁忌1:形象差异?
如果你打算贴自己的照片或者发照片给网友,照片上务必是本人,而不是你的俊男美女朋友,因为你迟早会见到对方,真相也就浮出水面了。所以要诚实。别慌称你1米60身材苗条,或者1米85健壮如牛,除非那是真的。
网络约会禁忌2:不准时!
约好网聊或者打电话的时间后赴约,而且要准时赴约。你也必须花心思让你们的关系深入下去。反之,对方会很快失去兴趣、转移方向。
网络约会禁忌3:贫嘴
保证你们的谈话内容有趣实在。别只是插科打诨说俏皮话。找到你们共同的兴趣爱好,比如音乐电影。你们得找机会聊聊人生目标和价值。要仔细倾听。你能从一个人对爱情、尊重、承诺的看法中获得很多信息。
网络约会禁忌4:期望伴侣尽善尽美
别期望找到完美的伴侣。世上无完人。人人都有缺点。关键是找到一个人,你愿意接受他的缺点。缺点是小小的怪僻也是个性,它使每个人都与众不同,自成一趣。
网络约会禁忌5:急于求成
匆忙发展起来的恋情总是错误的。从容一些。
好好了解对方,直到聊天时,你觉得舒服自如,欲罢不能。
那时,也只有到那时,你才可以亲自见网友,并把你们的关系提升到另一个层面。在坠入爱河之前,你必须先成为他(她)的知己。