1. Get to know your authentic self.

Discover the real you. Don’t blindly accept the role you were conditioned by others to fill. You have your own path to follow. Be your own independent person. Don’t allow peer pressure to force you into an inauthentic role.

2. Own your power.

Accept full responsibility for your life. Don’t live as a doormat, a sheep, or a victim. Stop giving away your power. You must accept that you’re the creator of your life and that no one is coming to rescue you. Many women stressed the importance of taking responsibility for your own financial future instead of leaving it in the hands of a spouse.

3. Find your voice.

Build the courage to express yourself authentically. Speak your truth. You deserve to be heard. If others react negatively, that’s their problem. Ask for what you want; you can’t expect others to be mind-readers. You teach others how you want to be treated — not by dropping hints but by telling them directly. If you don’t speak up for yourself, who will?

4. Find your tribe.

Consciously build and nurture a supportive network of positive relationships, including family and friends. Drop relationships that drain you; maintaining them is self-abuse. If you don’t like your current relationships, it’s up to you to change that. Surround yourself with good people who love you and inspire you. You deserve the very best relationships.

5. Practice self-care.

Avoid overwhelm by taking time to sharpen the saw. Give yourself permission to do what you enjoy. Demands from other people can wait. Accept that you can’t do everything for everyone. You can’t give to others when you’re empty inside.

6. Express your creative side.

Cultivate outlets for creative self-expression. Explore music, art, writing, poetry, etc. Build a business. Be artistic. Put your ideas into physical form.

7. Embrace conscious sexuality.

You and you alone must decide the role sex will play in your life. There are no right or wrong answers. If you want it and enjoy it, let that be enough. Different women had widely varying opinions on what kind of sexual expression they personally preferred, ranging from waiting until marriage to having guilt-free one-night stands. But the commonality was that they consciously decided and accepted what was right for them, regardless of how other people felt about it.

8. Be beautiful.

True beauty comes from the inside. It can’t be found beneath a load of cosmetics and surgical alterations. Recognize that you’re a beautiful person on the inside, and you’ll broadcast that awareness on the outside. You are beautiful.

9. Keep your heart open.

Regardless of how badly you may have been hurt in the past, keep your heart open. You’re stronger than you think. The rewards of love outweigh the risks of being hurt again. You’re here to express love, not to live in fear.

10. Become wise.

You are highly intuitive, so work on deepening your ability to trust your intuition. Keep learning and growing. In the long run, your wisdom will become one of your greatest assets, both as a way to meet your own needs and to help others. (Many women placed a very high value on developing their wisdom.)

Reading all of these pieces was amazingly eye-opening. I offer a huge “thank you” to everyone who chose to participate.

The point of articles such as these isn’t to dictate how you’re supposed to live. The point is to offer you different perspectives to consider, so you can make more conscious and deliberate choices for yourself.

Being a man or woman isn’t about blindly following popular gender patterns, nor is it about rejecting such patterns out of hand and rebelliously embracing their opposites. Ultimately you must define what kind of man or woman you will become. This is a choice you must make for yourself as an individual, regardless of what anyone else thinks. What kind of man/woman do you wish to be? Life awaits your answer…

1，认识你自己。

发现真实的你。不要盲目的接受别人所习惯的你的角色。你有自己的路去走。成为独立自主的你自己。不要使压力强迫你扮演不真实的角色。

2，拥有自己的力量。

承担起你生命的所有责任。不要活得像个擦鞋垫，绵羊，或者受害者。不要放弃你的力量。你必须接受你是你生命的创造者。没有人来拯救你。许多女性强调自己的财政未来的重要性而不是放任于配偶关系中。

3，倾听你的声音。

真实地建立起表达自己的勇气。说出你的事实。你值得倾听。如果别人反应很消极，那是他们的问题。问问你想要什么；你不能指望别人有读心术。你告诉别人你想被如何对待--不是给出提示而是直接告诉他们。如果你不能为自己大声说出，还有谁会这样做呢？

4，寻找你的部落。

有意识地建立和培养一个积极的关系网络，包括家庭和朋友；结束耗着你的关系；维持这些关系是自责。如果你不喜欢当前的关系，由你来决定改变。使围绕你周围的都是爱你和鼓舞你的人。你值得拥有最好的关系。

5，实践自我保健。

避免过多的时间以利于敏锐的发现。允许自己做喜欢的事情。别人的需要可以等等。承认你不能为所有人做所有事。档你内心是空的时，你就不能给别人东西。

6，表达你的创造性。

培养表达创造性的渠道。探究音乐，美术，书法，诗等等。建立一套商业模式。使自己更有艺术感。把你的想法变为实物形式。

7，拥抱有意识的性行为。

你必须自己决定性在你的生命中扮演的角色。这没有对的和错的答案之分。如果你想要而且乐在其中，那就让自己满足。个人喜欢什么样的性的表达，不同的女性有不同的看法，有人一直等到结婚，有人喜欢无罪的一夜情。公共的看法是自己决定和接受对他们来讲，什么是对的，而不用考虑别人是什么样的想法。

8，让自己美丽。

真美发自内心。化妆和整容不能使自己美丽。承认自己内在是一个美丽的人，然后通过外表传播出去，你是美丽的。

9，打开心灵。

无论你以前受了多么严重的伤害，都要敞开心扉。你比自己想像的要坚强。爱的回报重于再次受伤害。你生在世上是为了表达爱，而不是生活在担忧中。

10，明智起来。

你很有直觉，所以深化这种能力，相信自己的直觉。保持学习和成长。从长远来看，你的智慧会成为你最大的资产之一，对于满足自己的要求和帮助别人都是这样。（许多女性把增强智慧看的很重。）

读这些不可思议的开阔眼界。我对所有参与的人大声地说“谢谢”。

文章并不是要指示你应该如何生活，而是提供不同的观点供你参考，使你我自己做出更为深思熟虑的选择。

做一名男性或者女性并不是盲目的遵从流行的性别模式，也不是全盘否定这些模式而不受控制地拥抱这些模式的反面。从根本上说，你必须决定你希望成为什么样的男人或女人。无论其他任何人怎样想，作为一个个体，这是一个你必须自己做的选择。你希望成为什么样的男/女人?生活等待着你的答案...