The most healthy behavior is simply for you to be authentic. Yet often we avoid our own authentic behaviors thinking they are unhealthy ones. Your own mind and body know what you need. And if you need a reminder why it is important to follow your authentic self, look at these common behaviors which are often considered negative which can actually be healthy.
最健康的行为就是做真实的自己。然而，我们经常会避免真实的言行举止，认为它们是不健康的。你的大脑和身体知道你需要什么。为什么真情流露那么重要？看看下面这些常见行为，这些行为看似负面，实则健康。
1. Anger
1.愤怒
Anger is something many of us avoid expressing and yet it can often be very liberating. Being angry and expressing it in a healthy way can create powerful and positive change in our lives. Anger is simply a type of emotional energy that rises up in us when we have been wronged and a personal boundary has been crossed. That energy is set out on a mission to dismantle the inappropriate situation that has caused our suffering.
许多人总是避免表达愤怒情绪，然而愤怒是非常有益的。愤怒并且以健康的方式宣泄出来，这可以让我们的生活产生强大而积极的改变。当我们被无理对待，超过我们的底线时，体内就会升起愤怒这种情感能量。身体释放出这种能量是为了打破导致我们痛苦的不利形势。
So, learn how to embrace that energy and put it to positive use. When you become angry, examine how you can express that anger in a positive way that will create change for the better. It is when we deny our anger and avoid it that it can turn into more unhealthy ways of being, such as rage or depression. Know that healthy anger is there for a reason, to be your protector and liberator.
所以，学会接受这种能量，加以积极利用。当你愤怒的时候，找到积极的方式表达这种情绪，从而让事态发生好的转变。当我们拒绝愤怒，避免表达愤怒情绪时，往往会产生不健康的影响，比如暴躁或抑郁。要知道，健康的愤怒情绪有原因的，它是你的保护者和解放者。
2. Being Lost
2.迷茫
We are feeling lost when we have lost our sense of direction. Yet when we are lost, it makes us pay attention to the moment and to our instincts. If you have ever been lost in a big city or a foreign land, you likely also made some wonderful discoveries while trying to find your way.
当我们失去方向感时就会觉得不知所措。然而，当我们迷路的时候，我们会更加关注此时此刻，关注我们的本能。如果你曾经在一座大城市或异国他乡迷路，你在寻找出路的同时可能有一些精彩的新发现。
The same is true for life. Be okay with knowing it is the journey that is important, and sometimes in being lost and going down paths we never would have thought to choose we find out things about ourselves that are amazing. We discover unknown talents in ourselves, and meet friends or allies who otherwise would have remained a mystery. Being lost now doesn’t mean you will be lost forever. It simply means you are taking your time in finding your way, and also allowing the world around you to give input into the path which is best for you. Often it is that input we never would have dreamed to ask for that sets us on our true path.
生活也是如此。要知道生活是一次重要的旅程，偶尔迷失或者走上我们从未想过的道路时，我们会发现自己令人惊异的一面。我们会发现自己未知的天赋，会遇到一些朋友。如果不是这次旅程，彼此之间可能仍然是路人。现在迷茫不代表永远都会迷茫。这只不过意味着你需要花费一点时间寻找出路，让周围的世界为你指明方向，寻找到最适合你的人生之路。有些事，我们以前也许从未想过。但恰好是这些事指引我们走上真正的旅途。
3. Crying
3.哭泣
Crying, like anger, is a healthy human emotional response to certain situations. Although few of us would want to be crying all the time, it is important to honor those times in life which may bring us to tears. Those tears can be tears of loss but also of joy. When we cry, it helps our psyche unleash energy that if we were to hold on to may become toxic or make us rigid.
就像愤怒一样，哭泣也是人类对某些情况作出的健康的情感反应。尽管很少有人总是想要哭泣，然而要尊重生活中那些可能让我们潸然泪下的时刻。这些泪水可能是失落的泪水，也可能是开心的泪水。当我们哭泣时，我们的心灵会释放出一些能量，如果克制的话，可能会变成毒素，或者让我们变得苛刻。
Crying also softens our personalities as well as our appearance to the outside world, letting others know we feel, care, grieve and are effected by the world around us. So, crying not only lets us release our grief and sorrow, but also sends a signal to others that we are open and vulnerable as human beings, making us more attractive as friends and partners than those who never shed a tear for any reason.
哭泣还会软化我们的性格和我们向外界展现出的面貌，让他人知道我们会感受，会在意，会悲伤，也会受周围世界的影响。所以，哭泣不仅会让我们释放悲伤情绪，也向他人传递了一个信号：我们也是坦诚和易受伤害的普通人，比起那些无论任何原因从不落泪的人，我们作为朋友和合作者更有吸引力。
4. Being alone
4.独处
Being alone doesn’t have to be seen in a negative way and often can mean that we are just cutting off some of the not necessary social activities to dive into a deeper level of our being. It’s true that there are some situations where a person isolating themselves might be a reason of concern, but know as well that many of the worlds greatest artists, writers and thinkers found supreme value in solitude to find deeper inspiration and re-ignited their sense of creativity. Sometimes we just need to turn off the external stimuli and be with ourselves.
独处不一定是凄苦可怜的，通常意味着我们只是切断一些不必要的社交活动，潜入内心更深的层次。确实，有时一个人把自己孤立起来让人担忧，但是也要知道，世界上许多最伟大的艺术家，作家和思想家都在独处中寻找更深的灵感，重新唤起创新的感觉，从而找到最高的价值。有时，我们需要封闭外界的刺激，一个人独处。
If you are feeling the need to be alone, trust and honor it. Sometimes a walk by yourself in the park, or even going on a solo vacation can lead to a level of self reflection that completely renews our sense of purpose. In some situations, the most healthy thing you can do for yourself is to be alone.
如果你觉得需要独处，信任并尊重自己的感觉。有时在公园独自漫步，甚至独身去度假都可以引发自我反思，完全刷新我们的目标感。在有些情况下，对自己做的最健康的事情就是独处。
5. Not listening
5.不听从
Not listening to others may often be seen as an anti-social or even arrogant form of behavior, and yet there are times when you need to just go on your own intuition and be free with what your inner calling is. Keeping your eye on a strong vision sometimes requires you to ignore or tune out those voices who may not understand or be in alignment with that vision. Trust yourself and know that if advice is being given to you there may be some very good reasons not to listen to it.
有时候我们不听从他人的意见，会被视为不合群，甚至傲慢。然而，有时你只需遵循自己的直觉，听从内心的呼唤。有时你需要忽略或屏蔽那些不理解你或与你的看法不一致的声音，这样才能保持强大开阔的视野。
Not listening can also simply display a level of discernment, as we have all seen those people who listen to what everyone else tells them, and how they can often appear to be captains on a rudderless ship, lacking an internal strong sense of direction. Be wise and know when to listen to others and when not to. If that inner bell says to go on your own gut feeling in spite of what others say, then trust it.
不听别人的意见有时也反映出你的洞察力。有些人总是听从他人的意见，缺乏内在的方向感，无法指挥自己的生命之船乘风破浪。明智一点，知道何时听从别人的意见，何时不听。如果内在的声音告诉你，听从自己的感受，不要理会他人的说法，那就这样做。
6. Breaking the rules
6.违反规则
Breaking the rules at times can improve your life, as well as the lives of others. Rules are made by people, and none of us are perfect. So, trust in your own ability to find the heart behind the rule, and then decide for yourself if that rule promotes the greater good. Most innovations in art, science and society happen because someone stopped abiding by the rules as they were written and had the courage to challenge those rules that were unjust. Some of the world’s great rule breakers were Rosa Parks, Gandhi, John Lennon, and Martin Luther King Jr. Don’t be afraid to be like them.
违反规则有时可以改善你的生活，也会改变他人的生活。规则是由人制定的，任何人都不是完美的。所以，相信自己有能力抛开规则追寻内心，自己判断，规则是否能够产生更好的结果。艺术，科学和社会方面大部分创新的发生都是因为有人创作时不再遵守规则，有勇气挑战不公平的规定。世界上最伟大的勇于打破陈规的人包括罗莎•帕克斯，甘地，约翰•列侬和马丁•路德•金。不要害怕成为他们这样的人。
7. Not fitting in
7.格格不入
Not fitting in can be painful and awkward, especially during teenage years, but it can also mean you’re an innovator and that you have something to offer beyond the norm. When we fit in, it is usually because our thoughts, feelings and even our imagination is in tune with our community. Stepping outside that box of what others might expect of us can lead us into a place of not fitting in, but it can also lead us to explore outside the zone of commonly accepted beliefs and thoughts, which is the fertile ground for new ideas and new ways of thinking that beget innovation.
与周围的人群格格不入有时是痛苦而尴尬的，尤其是青少年时期。但这也意味着你是创新者，你拥有不同寻常的品质。当我们融入环境时，通常我们的思维，感受，甚至想象力都和周围的人群一致。其他人总是对我们指手画脚，认为我们应该如何如何，请走出这种常规束缚，虽然这会让我们显得格格不入，但是也让我们能够超越常人接受的信仰和思维，探索以外的领域，而这正是开启创新的新想法，新思维的沃土。
So embrace who you are in the now even if it doesn’t fit in with others. Know that your innovations may forge a new path that others may eventually follow.
即使你的想法与众不同，也接受现在的自己。要知道，或许你的创新思维将开创出一条他人最终遵循的道路。