1. Be funny. Kind-spirited humor can douse a hot argument, head off a fight, and turn the drudgery of household responsibilities and planning into something witty, smart, and hilarious. Stick with warm humor; sarcasm and snide remarks aren't relationship-builders.

    2. Be kissy. Saluting your spouse with a longer-than-usual kiss in the morning, at the end of the workday, and before you say good night telegraphs the good news that you still find him or her irresistible and wonderful.

    3. Be appreciative. You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb just in time for pickup.

    4. Be surprising. Bring home an unexpected little gift. Get the car serviced before he changes the oil. Deliver breakfast in bed next Saturday （then pop a Looney Tunes DVD into the TV for the kids and lock your bedroom door）.

    5. Be historical. Play the songs you two loved best when you were courting. Bring out your wedding album after dinner and leaf through it together. Bring up the good times from your past -- you'll both get a glow and feel lifted up as you remember your passion.

    6. Be forgetful. Forgive your spouse's human shortcomings, then forget them. Nobody's perfect, especially under stress. （Hmmm … could that include you?） Graciously overlooking flaws, errors, and gaffes sets a sweetly gracious tone for your relationship.

    1. 让自己变得搞笑一点：善意的开开玩笑可以平息争吵，让干家务这件苦差事变成一件诙谐、滑稽的事情。但是切记玩笑要开得适宜，且不可有对两性关系不利的讽刺挖苦的成分。

    2 . 献上你的亲吻： 早晨醒来的时候、结束一天工作的时候甚至说晚安的时候，向你的爱人献上一个深深的吻，这让他/她知道在你眼里他/她还是那么的迷人。

    3. 欣赏你的爱人：记住"再怎么欣赏你的爱人都不为过".无论是在把帐单付好的时候，或者组织好孩子活动的时候，还是昨晚做了美味的龙虾，把地下室的电线重新接好了，把积累了三个月的旧杂志从沙发边清理出去了， 垃圾拎出门正好赶上收垃圾车的时候，你的爱人都需要听到你对他/她的赞美。

    4. 带给他/她惊喜：回家给他/她带个意外的小礼物吧。在他给汽车加油前偷偷先把车洗了。 周六的早晨把早餐端到床上去。（给孩子们放《巨星总动员》的动画片，然后你们俩锁上卧室门该干嘛干嘛吧！）

    5.怀念往昔美好岁月：放放谈恋爱的时候你们俩最爱听的歌。晚餐后把结婚相册翻出来一起浏览一番。谈谈过去美好的时光--想起往日的爱恋会让彼此觉得心满意足、激情澎湃。

    6. 学会忘记：对爱人的缺点要宽容，然后忘记它们。人无完人，特别是在压力之下。（嗯，你也是那样的吧？） 以优雅的方式忽略对方的缺点、错误、丑态能够为你们的关系定下甜蜜、亲切的基调。